Anger and Anger Management :
Signs of Anger
- Change in breathing
- Tunnel vision
- Wanting to yell or hit
- Wanting revenge
- Feeling hot or flushed
- Feeling a need to lash out at someone or at yourself
Do’s and Dont’s of Anger Control
- Do cool off before addressing the issue
- Do understand your motives
- Do be assertive
- Do communicate constructively
- Do get some help if you need it
- Don’t get personal
- Don’t make accusations
- Don’t be aggressive
- Don’t sulk or avoid the issue
- Don’t use violence
- Don’t use alcohol or drugs when you’re angry
Understanding Your Anger
- Who am I really angry with?
- What am I really angry about?
- What will I gain by being angry?
- How is my anger affecting others?
- Is the situation in my control or anyone else’s?
- What can I do about the situation?
- Feeling anger is normal
- Expressing anger constructively is healthy
- Be in a state in which you can communicate clearly and effectively
- Making accusations and refusing to listen to someone does more harm than good
- Verbal, emotional, and physical abuse are wrong and are NEVER warranted
- Take time out of a discussion if you’re angry
Helpful Communication Skills
- Use “I” statements, not “You” statements
- Point out the behavior that you don’t like, and tell them how it makes you feel
- Don’t attack a person’s character
- Remember that a person can’t “make you feel” any particular way
- Maintain normal voice volume
- Take a break to calm down if you’re too mad to communicate constructively.
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